Updated: Mar 22, 2021
I'm not sure about you, but I just don't know where the years have gone!
How the f**k did I get to the age of 44!. That is officially a grown up...theres no getting around it anymore, no hiding from it. Only strapping in, holding on tight and preparing for the wild ride that is Midlife!
The big shift for me came last year when I found out I was deep in Perimenopause. The symptoms were harsh. Crazy hot flashes. Sleepless nights. Low energy...like through the floor low. Lack of desire to do literally ANYTHING. Not much that was great to be honest....but there was one clear relisation. The knowing that I had hit the middle point of my life and what did I want to create for the second half of it?
Not taking the route of motherhood my 20's and 30's have been a crazy mash up of spiritual and personal growth and making a total fucking mess along the way!! Quite the journey I can tell you.
And there is a dismantling (or demolishing) before we begin to rebuild. A letting go that we need to move through before we step into our next incarnation as a fucking fabulous mid life queen! An acceptance that we are no longer who we once were, and we will never be that woman again.
The Misnderstood Magic of Midlife....
It's only since my late 30's that I really started getting my shit together. And beginning the lifelong journey back to myself. So my large hormonal slap round the face at the end of 2019 was not expected or desired, but boy did it help me get clear!
Let's get real for a moment. Midlife has not been modelled as 'the empowered years' by the generations above us. Going through 'the change' was about as much as I ever heard about it. But I'm starting to see that these years are the time when we REALLY get to know who we are! When the transition of Perimenopause and Menopause puts into sharp,sharp focus what's in and whats out. What works and what doesnt...what we will allow in our lives and what can go bye bye!!
There is a magic to Midlife that is not discussed in the mainstream....but it's there I promise. Of course there is challenge in it too. We're getting clearer about who we are and what we want whilst our bodies and hormones start to do the fandango! And there is a dismantling (or demolishing) before we begin to rebuild. A letting go that we need to move through before we step into our next incarnation as a fucking fabulous mid life queen! An acceptance that we are no longer who we once were, and will never be that woman again.
We have some work to do though ladies. Some pushing against societal norms of what Women 'of a certain age' should be, behave like, dress like. We could get angry and rage against it of course...it's unfair and we would have every right to. The alternative is that we do our own work. That we discover who we are and what we need as this new us and go get it!
There is a power in Midlife that we can harness for our very own if we choose to. Who's with me?
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